Do your parents give you strange looks when you ask for privacy? In that case, you are not by yourself. Indian parents either deny understanding the concept of innocent privacy or act as though they do. They interpret privacy as either a sign that their children are deviating from the right path or that they are no longer being respected. However, would you, dear parents, appreciate it if children invaded your privacy? Isn't that also a disrespectful act?
Indian culture's conventional view of parenting
Indian parenting, like every other activity in our society, has its roots in tradition. Indian history is brimming with tales of children who have unwavering loyalty to their parents. Shravan's tale of sacrificing his life for his blind parents or the Pandavas' choice to share Draupadi as their wife after their mother made an unintentional remark about what a good child should be.
I do not question the importance of youngsters showing their parents respect and obedience. But should children's freedom of choice be sacrificed for that devotion? Why do we believe that a child will only be committed to their parents if they give up their life, privacy, and freedom to choose? Why is it so difficult for us to understand that a child who wants privacy and stand by their decisions still respect and love their parents?
In addition, many homes lack the privilege of privacy due to the poverty in our nation. As a result, a lot of us have embraced and idolised this as a natural and loving way to interact with one another. Even if this is common in Indian households, should we object if it leads to long-term change? Does physical proximity alone determine a family's ability to stay together? Doesn't it depend on the home's wholesome atmosphere, where everyone is allowed to be themselves?
the significance of privacy
The issue is that Indian parents do not appreciate the value of protecting their children's privacy. Parents want to know how and what their child is doing until they fulfil the child's requirements. Understanding a child's life is crucial, but controlling and criticising them shouldn't be done.
Indian parents lack a basic understanding of privacy.
Because we are a family, according to our parents, it is OK to enter each other's personal space. They fail to understand, however, that, as adults, we all have our own lives and require privacy even though we are a single entity. It's OK that way. After all, there's a reason we all got into so many ugly confrontations with our families during the epidemic. Being at home nonstop is not typical for our generation.
Parents think they protect their kids and look out for their best interests. They believe having control over their lives is OK, but they are blind to the fact that this is detrimental. I understand that our parents feel responsible for us because we live with them. Still, they need to realise that as we become adults, there are boundaries, even within the family, and it's perfectly OK to respect those boundaries. Their invasive behaviour will only drive their kids away from them and fuel their already-present rebelliousness.
Children have the right to live on their terms, especially when they become adults. The right to privacy is a fundamental one for all people. Age, gender, or a person's connection are unrelated. Giving others their own space strengthens and builds trust in a relationship. One can better understand themselves by maintaining their privacy. They learn the value of setting boundaries and establishing their identity.
So please, parents, recognise the value of privacy in your children's lives. Kids have areas of their lives where they don't want outside intrusion, just like adults do. Children instinctively trust their parents and open up to them about their concerns when they understand their parents. Therefore, dear parents, give it to them the next time a child requests privacy. They only attempt to deepen their relationship with themselves rather than sever it with their parents.